Why I don’t want to follow your pattern of lifestyle

Posted on May 31, 2012

Some may call it destiny, but I don’t like it. Destiny means you can’t change what you’re intended to be, when in fact, you can! Here is the story of my life. I come from a small town in the North of France, where I spend my young years. There, most of the youth will study 2 or 3 years, start working as early as 22 and until they get 60-65 and get retired. The luckiest will study 5 years and end up they career as a manager or such. In the mean time, they get married, make kids, buy a house and have a savings account… In the mean time, it’s every day the same: a 9 to 5 job, 5 days a week, and they can spend the weekend watching football on TV. Luckily, they have 5 weeks a year of vacation leaves for possibly having the chance to spend some days on an over-crowded beach in the South of France.

And it’s not even their fault if they have a boring life. Because we are formatted this way. Society will give us a pattern to follow for our lives, by playing on our fears. The financial crisis is striking Europe, factories close and businesses outsource everything that’s possible in Asia and Africa. You are born here in France and you already have a savings account with 10 euros on it, a nice birth gift from your grand mother. A savings account? You’re baby and you’re already told to feel insecure and to put money aside for the rainy days? Then what, your parents will tell you to study (5 years), get a job, save money, and make the best career possible to finally be granted the benefits of a paid retirement when you reach 60.

I’m sorry, I really don’t see how living in anxiety and fear of the future is making us any happier. I don’t see how running after money to buy shit we don’t need is making our lives any better.

Don’t make me wrong, I am working hard (to the difference that I work for myself, and I love it, and I love my business Forexagone.com like it’s my baby) and I earn decent money. But I am contented with a simple life, and with having experiences that don’t necessarily cost much money. If I discovered something by living here in the Philippines, it’s not only that they have stunning islands and dream landscapes, it’s also that the people here can be happy (a lot happier than most of the French people I know) with almost nothing. Relatively, it’s a poor country, that’s for sure. But do you need to own a luxury car here when you live on paradise island? A 125cc motorbike will do for going from your house in town to the nearest beach, it takes only 20 minutes. Of coures they have a CBD (Makati) and Filipinos who have a career, but they’re just following the trend of globalisation. Most of the Filipinos living in the province are not this type, they are happy with a simple lifestyle (not to mistake with a poor lifestyle).

Career, savings, postponing happiness to our old years… This is the pattern of lifestyle that we are told to follow in western countries, and it sucks, I don’t want this. What I learnt in the world of Internet startups (mixed with the world of the nomad workers) is that you can: 1) have a decent life even if you don’t have a degree, 2) can be happy and live an exciting life even if you don’t have much money.

I was intended to follow this pattern, it was supposed to be my fate since birth… Glad that travelling and having a non-salaried activity made me realise that life can be different, life can be better.

About the author

Cyril Mazur is a serial web entrepreneur with experience in various fields: online dating, forex & finance, blogging, online advertising... who enjoys building things that people like to use.