Why I don’t want to follow your pattern of lifestyle

Posted on May 31, 2012
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Some may call it destiny, but I don’t like it. Destiny means you can’t change what you’re intended to be, when in fact, you can! Here is the story of my life. I come from a small town in the North of France, where I spend my young years. There, most of the youth will study 2 or 3 years, start working as early as 22 and until they get 60-65 and get retired. The luckiest will study 5 years and end up they career as a manager or such. In the mean time, they get married, make kids, buy a house and have a savings account… In the mean time, it’s every day the same: a 9 to 5 job, 5 days a week, and they can spend the weekend watching football on TV. Luckily, they have 5 weeks a year of vacation leaves for possibly having the chance to spend some days on an over-crowded beach in the South of France.

And it’s not even their fault if they have a boring life. Because we are formatted this way. Society will give us a pattern to follow for our lives, by playing on our fears. The financial crisis is striking Europe, factories close and businesses outsource everything that’s possible in Asia and Africa. You are born here in France and you already have a savings account with 10 euros on it, a nice birth gift from your grand mother. A savings account? You’re baby and you’re already told to feel insecure and to put money aside for the rainy days? Then what, your parents will tell you to study (5 years), get a job, save money, and make the best career possible to finally be granted the benefits of a paid retirement when you reach 60.

I’m sorry, I really don’t see how living in anxiety and fear of the future is making us any happier. I don’t see how running after money to buy shit we don’t need is making our lives any better.

Don’t make me wrong, I am working hard (to the difference that I work for myself, and I love it, and I love my business Forexagone.com like it’s my baby) and I earn decent money. But I am contented with a simple life, and with having experiences that don’t necessarily cost much money. If I discovered something by living here in the Philippines, it’s not only that they have stunning islands and dream landscapes, it’s also that the people here can be happy (a lot happier than most of the French people I know) with almost nothing. Relatively, it’s a poor country, that’s for sure. But do you need to own a luxury car here when you live on paradise island? A 125cc motorbike will do for going from your house in town to the nearest beach, it takes only 20 minutes. Of coures they have a CBD (Makati) and Filipinos who have a career, but they’re just following the trend of globalisation. Most of the Filipinos living in the province are not this type, they are happy with a simple lifestyle (not to mistake with a poor lifestyle).

Career, savings, postponing happiness to our old years… This is the pattern of lifestyle that we are told to follow in western countries, and it sucks, I don’t want this. What I learnt in the world of Internet startups (mixed with the world of the nomad workers) is that you can: 1) have a decent life even if you don’t have a degree, 2) can be happy and live an exciting life even if you don’t have much money.

I was intended to follow this pattern, it was supposed to be my fate since birth… Glad that travelling and having a non-salaried activity made me realise that life can be different, life can be better.

About the author

Cyril Mazur is a serial web entrepreneur with experience in various fields: online dating, forex & finance, blogging, online advertising... who enjoys building things that people like to use.

5 comments

  1. Cyril N.
    on May 31, 2012
    +1 !

    I agree with what you say and I admire what you do, but I think there is a bad loop in the society where people need to earn money (by every way possible) to start living differently.
    You can go where you want without any money, one of my friend did that, but having a backup account is always better. Could you keep the lifestyle you have if your money would only come from vegetable growing in your garden?
  2. Cyril
    on May 31, 2012
    It's actually something I experienced here in the Philippines, the average Filipino is not running after more money than necessary, and is contented with a few things (family gatherings, island hoping, beach...). They are a lot less career oriented than us westerners.

    Would you work just one month and then stop and have a simple lifestyle, and the day you can't pay for your lunch anymore you get another job for one month and then quit again to enjoy life, and so on?

    Working now expecting to make enough money for an early retirement is an illusion, there is never enough and you end up working until you're old...
  3. Cyril N.
    on June 1, 2012
    Yep I agree :) It's a total illusion to hope saving enough money to have a good retirement, not for the average citizen.

    But maybe you can quit/find a job easily in the Philippines, but not in France, and that's where the problem arise.

    Oh man I wish I could work 6 month a year and enjoy the nature the other 6 month! :)
  4. Julien
    on June 12, 2012
    “Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living.” – Miriam Beard

    I can only agree with what you're saying. Most of my Thai friends have less than my friends back home, but they're happy with what they've got and know how to enjoy life...
  5. pierre
    on January 21, 2013
    I agree with you Cyril, but I'll add something more: you can earn more money and financial security the way you live than someone following the traditional path.
    You learn faster, you can change country, you can earn euros and spend Dong, you are scarce etc...
    On the other hand, someone having a classical carrer path put everything in the hand of a big company, and has the same profile as lots of people. Who knows the future of big european companies ?

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